Do you catch yourself saying ‘I still love my ex’? If so, it’s important to have a think about where you actually want to go from here. Many people who find they’re still in love with their ex imagine that they want to get back with them – and some people even do so, only to regret it later. If you want to avoid making this mistake, it’s important to realise that it’s perfectly natural that you will still have feelings for your ex; after all, the two of you shared a strong bond for a long time. But does that really mean you want to get back with him or her? Not necessarily. So to get clear about what you really want, think about what you actually mean when you say ‘I still love my ex’.
Although it may be painful to still have feelings for your ex, it’s actually a good sign, as it indicates that you did have a strong bond, and have many happy memories of your partnership. This doesn’t mean that getting back together is the best thing however. Ask yourself – do you really still have romantic feelings for your ex-partner? You may still love your ex, but do you really want to get back together with them?
It’s important to figure this out, because very often when people think they’re in love of their ex, they’re really just remembering the good times and feeling that residual fondness that is bound to remain. It’s easy to be blinded by such feelings, and forget why the two of you actually broke up in the first place. It could be that the positive feelings towards your ex will be the basis for a lasting friendship between the two of you – and that’s certainly worthwhile thing, as good friends can be hard to find. You may find that you get on with your ex much better as friends than you ever did as lovers. So don’t rush headlong into trying to get your ex back without being sure that you want to be more than friends.
If, on the other hand, you’re still feeling genuine romantic love for your ex, and you’re sure that you do want to rekindle your relationship, some work will probably be involved. First of all, you need to be sure that your ex wants to get back with you – if you think there is a chance of this, you may want to read more about getting your ex back. Even if they do want to give your relationship another try, the two of you will need to work on the issues that drove you part in the first place, if your second attempt is to be successful. Counselling can be very helpful at this time, and can help you to create a new relationship that is stronger than ever.
So, realising that you’re still in love with your ex does not have to be a reason to panic, so long as you don’t try to rush things. Handle it right, and you’ll either end up with a very good friend for life, or you’ll rekindle your relationship and create a happy future together.
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